The Color Purple
How we cite our quotes:
I don’t like to go to bed with him no more, she [Sofia] say. Used to be when he touch me I’d go all out my head. Now when he touch me I just don’t want to be bothered. Once he git on top of me I think bout how that’s where he always want to be. She sip her lemonade. I use to love that part of it, she say. I use to chase him home from the field. Git all hot just watching him put the children to bed. But no more. Now I feel tired all the time. No interest.
Now, now, I say. Sleep on it some, maybe it come back. But I say this just to be saying something. I don’t know nothing bout it. Mr.__________ clam on top of me, do his business, in ten minutes us both sleep. Only time I feel something stirring down there is when I think bout Shug. And that like running to the end of the road and it turn back on itself.
You know the worst part? she say. The worst part is I don’t think he notice. He git up there and enjoy himself just the same. No matter what I’m thinking. No matter what I feel. It just him. Heartfeeling don’t even seem to enter into it. She snort. The fact he can do it like that make me want to kill him. (30.15-17)
Sofia has lost love for Harpo, and she doesn’t think he even notices. He enjoys sex whether the woman he’s with loves him or not. Sofia, on the other hand, doesn’t want to have a sexual relationship without love. She doesn’t want sex to just be something physical, but an action involving "heartfeeling."
Hard not to love Shug, I say. She know how to love somebody back. (89.20)
Shug’s mystique is explained. Being loveable is about the ability to love other. Once Mr.__, for example, gets a little nicer and shows care and consideration to the people in his life, they reciprocate.