Dicey is all about rebelling against traditional women’s roles, which is one of the many things that make her an awesome YA heroine. There’s a reason Dicey’s Song is still being read more than 30 years after publication: we can all relate to her, even the non-girly girls among us. No matter what pressures she experiences, she stays true to herself, refusing along the way to conform to what society tells her a girl should be.
Dicey doesn't seem to notice she's a girl, because it makes no difference to her. Yet.
Dicey already knows motherhood isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. After all, she’s had to take care of her three younger siblings, so the idea’s not as romantic to her.