Femininity is hard work. We don't just mean the makeup and the high heels. We mean cleaning the house. The whole house. And looking dainty while doing it. In "Girl," being a woman seems to be synonymous with keeping a house (and its inhabitants) clean. What happens if you don't achieve that goal? Social suicide, basically. No wonder this list of things you need to do to keep your lady card gets passed down from one generation to another in the form of "motherly" advice.
In "Girl," femininity revolves around maintaining the home.
Kincaid suggests that both the girl and her mom are restricted by the rules of femininity.