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On My First Son

On My First Son


by Ben Jonson

On My First Son Theme of Family

The poem is called "On My First Son," so naturally family plays an important role here. The poem reflects on what it is like to lose a child, but also about how one's ideas of fatherhood are altered after the death of a child. Can a dad still be a dad after such a tragedy? That's the kind of question that might not have a final answer, a lot like "What's the sound of one hand clapping?"

Questions About Family

  1. How much of your own identity is tied to your family? Explain.
  2. Is the love for your family members different, better, or more intense than your love for others? If so, how?
  3. Can death affect your love of family? Why or why not?
  4. Do you think you will have a different relationship with your first-born child than the others?

Chew on This

Try on an opinion or two, start a debate, or play the devil’s advocate.

By not directly calling the child his "son" (except for in the title), the speaker makes it seem as though the child is somebody else's. In this way, he lessens the tragedy of the situation by distancing it from himself.

The speaker's idea of family is strangely limited and one-dimensional, a lot like our drawing skills. Without his son, he wants to abandon all thoughts of fatherhood, as if he wants to abandon any role as the head of a family.

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