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He spoke well; but there were feelings besides those of the heart to be detailed; and he was not more eloquent on the subject of tenderness than of pride. His sense of her inferiority—of its being a degradation—of the family obstacles which had always opposed to inclination, were dwelt on with a warmth which seemed due to the consequence he was wounding, but was very unlikely to recommend his suit. (34.5)
Mr. Darcy's marriage proposal is more about himself than about Elizabeth—and that makes two for Lizzy, since Mr. Collins's was just a grosser version of the same thing. With options like that, no wonder she keeps saying no.
Mr. Gardiner, whose manners were very easy and pleasant, encouraged her communicativeness by his questions and remarks; Mrs. Reynolds, either by pride or attachment, had evidently great pleasure in talking of her master and his sister. (43.23)
Mrs. Reynolds is the housekeeper at Pemberley, and she seems to take more pride in the Darcy family than he does. But from what she says, there's a lot to be proud of. Is this a case of justifiable pride?