I desired my dust to be mingled with yours (12)
The question is, does this mingling mean that the wife loses her own identity in the marriage, or is the "mingling" of dust a deep-felt and equal union between two people?
Too deep to clear them away! (21)
Usually we'd like to see a more "can do" attitude from our heroines today, but perhaps this is a metaphorical way of letting her husband know that his absence has a noticeable effect on her day-to-day life.