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The Flea

The Flea

  

by John Donne

The Flea Theme of Marriage

The speaker of "The Flea" is like, "Let's act like a married couple would act," and he's not talking about splitting the chores and fighting over the remote, either. He means he wants to do what a married couple would do – with the blessing of church, family, and state – in the bedroom. Ah, the "blessing" part is the rub, because without marriage, their act would be considered sinful in the seventeenth century. But from the perspective of a woman in Donne's time, marriage gave her security and at least some power in the relationship. Otherwise, the man could just take what he wants and hit the road. But our speaker would never do a thing like that, would he...?

Questions About Marriage

  1. Why don't the woman or her parents want the "marriage" to go forward? What might be their "grudge" (14)?
  2. What does it mean to be "more than married" (11)? Is the phrase just a rhetorical flourish?
  3. Explain, in your own words, the metaphor of the mixing of two bloods.
  4. According to the speaker, why would the woman be committing "sacrilege" if she killed the flea (line 18)?

Chew on This

Try on an opinion or two, start a debate, or play the devil’s advocate.

The speaker does not actually hope to convince the woman that they are already married. Rather, he wants her to begin to imagine a hypothetical future in which they are linked together.

In the poem, marriage is more important as a religious and social ceremony than as the culmination of a romantic bond.

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