How we cite our quotes:
I saw the way my mama acted when Miss Woodra brought her home, all yes Ma'aming, No Ma'aming. I sure do thank you Ma'aming. Why I got to be like that? I know how to stand up to people. (3.130)
Minny's mother tries to teach Minny that a non-confrontational, super-polite attitude toward white people is the best way to survive. But, instead, Minny believes in standing up for herself, sometimes at great cost.
"You're the smartest one in my class, Aibileen," she say. "And the only way you're going to stay sharp is to and write every day."
So I start writing my prayers down instead a sayin em. But nobody call me smart since. (2.126, 2.127)
Aibileen doesn't get another chance to demonstrate her intellectual prowess again until she's in her fifties.
Mrs. Charlotte Phelan's guide to Husband-Hunting, Rule Number One: a pretty, petite girl should accentuate with makeup and good posture. A tall plain one, with a trust fund. (5.36)
Like Minny, Skeeter Phelan resists aspects of the education she gets from her mother.