Wait, what? Okay, so there's no actual death in "To My Dear and Loving Husband," but he's there nonetheless. In the last lines of the poem, for example, the speaker talks about how the love between her and her husband might allow them to live forever, thereby cheating death. At another point in the poem, the speaker describes her love as undying, because no river can "quench" it, or stop it. So what's up with all this death in a love poem? In some ways, it seems as if the two go hand in hand.
The poem's last word is also the same as the second word in each of the first three lines ("ever"), which makes the poem seem like a circle. Like love, the poem has no beginning and no end – it just goes on forever.
Death is not always a bad thing. The poem argues that death is the beginning of something much greater, a life after death with loved ones.