Mrs. Ramsay, in particular, is very conscious of her identity, constantly interrogating herself and her character. She adopts a very subordinate position when in her interactions with other people, which means that her own true self is frequently stifled. But – good news – when there are no people around to pander to, her own private self has room to explore. Lily also contemplates her identity often.
Mrs. Ramsay is exceedingly self-aware.