Study Guide

They Flee from Me

By Sir Thomas Wyatt

They Flee from Me Introduction

Sit back and relax, folks. We're going to tell you a story. It's about a little ol' king – you may have heard of him – named Henry VIII. You might know him from Showtime's rather sensationalist show The Tudors. But that's a fictionalized version. Shmoop will give you the real scoop.

In the early 1500s in England, Henry VIII was the man. He was king, he had six different wives, and he stayed in power for almost thirty-eight years. His first wife, Catherine of Aragon, failed to give him a son (and heir), so he defied the church and got a divorce (technically it was an annulment). He then married Anne Boleyn, but didn't like her attitude and her failure to produce a male heir, so he had her executed for incest and high treason. (Are we seeing a pattern?) Then Henry married Jane Seymour, who died during childbirth. After Jane, he married Anne of Cleves, but he got sick of her and had that annulled, too. Next up was Catherine Howard; she cheated on him, and – wait for it – he had her executed. Finally, he married a wealthy widow named Catherine Parr, to whom he was married when he died at the age of 55. That's a lot of wives. Got all that?

Unfortunately, Henry VIII was not exactly the ideal husband. He cheated on most of his wives, often with women that eventually became future wives. Henry, however, wasn't the only guy engaging in such behavior, and here's where Thomas Wyatt, and today's poem "They Flee from Me" come in.

Indeed, there were lots of men in the early English Renaissance who had affairs with unmarried women. In those days, people weren't supposed to have sex until they got married, but this didn't stop people from doing it. We can't prove it, but it's a fair assumption that Thomas Wyatt (sometimes called Thomas Wyatt the Elder, to distinguish him from his son) was one of these men. At the very least, he certainly knew men like this, because as it turns out, he was a member of Henry VIII's court. At one point, he was even imprisoned, after being accused of having an affair with the Queen, Anne Boleyn. The charges were later dropped, so we'll never know what really happened.

In any case, Wyatt's poem, which was published in Tottel's Miscellany in 1557 (after his death), tackles this subject of sex out of wedlock, from the point of view of a speaker who's quite familiar with the practice. Through the perspective of this speaker, "They Flee from Me" reflects on the sexual culture of Henry VIII's court and the early Renaissance more generally. In the poem, a gentleman considers all the sexual conquests of his past (with particular focus on one unique encounter), and then wonders why it is these previously eager women no longer visit him.

Usually, this kind of love poetry focuses on guys chasing and seducing women. In those poems, men have the power, and women are at their mercy. But in Wyatt's poem, this relationship gets turned around and muddled up, leaving our speaker at the mercy of these women.

In general, women were the real victims in these situations. The consequences for having sex outside of marriage were far worse for them – just look where Catherine Howard turned up (headless, in an unmarked grave). But in this poem, the speaker comes off as the victim. He is puzzled, wounded, and upset. Wyatt's exploration of a wounded man's feelings is definitely unique, and that just might account for the poem's enduring popularity. It's striking to see a Renaissance man in a position of sexual vulnerability. Plus, it raises all kinds of questions about gender roles, sexual politics, and even love. Sounds juicy, huh? It is.

What is They Flee from Me About and Why Should I Care?

Have you ever had the yips? Say you're really great at baseball. Every time you step up to the plate, you knock one out of the park. Or at least nab yourself a base hit. But then one day, you wake up in the morning, and something doesn't feel quite right. When you get to practice that day, and step up to the plate, you just can't hit the ball, no matter how hard you try. You've got the yips, friend – the curse of athletes everywhere. Actually, it can happen to all of us. We're really good at something, anything, and then one day we just can't hack it anymore. We keep coming up short.

Well, the speaker of "They Flee from Me" has definitely got the yips. Only in his case, he's got them in the romance department. Once a great seducer, with too many girlfriends and too little time, he's now all alone. None of these ladies are interested in him anymore. He just can't seem to get a date. A lot of what the poem examines is the total bewilderment that happens after he realizes he doesn't have it anymore.

This inexplicable change of fortune is a very real feeling for our speaker, and it's one we can all relate to. Whether our best friend has suddenly given us the cold shoulder, or we can no longer sink a putt, we've probably all had the yips in one way or another. So we can all understand our speaker's desperate need to find out why. Unfortunately, sometimes, there's just no answer to that question.

They Flee from Me Resources

Websites

Thomas Wyatt at luminarium.org
Hmm, we guess this means he's a luminary.

I'm Henry VIII I Am
A detailed page devoted to Henry VIII, to whom Wyatt was a trusted advisor. That is, you know, until Wyatt was accused of an affair with Henry's wife.

Tottel's Miscellany
Wyatt's poems first appeared in this book, which has an adorably goofy title, if we may say so.

Video

"They Flee from Me"
Here, a rather creepily animated portrait of Thomas Wyatt recites the poem for your (dis)pleasure.

Audio

A Poet reads "They Flee from Me"
Well, we can't hear it in the voice of long-deceased Wyatt, but at least poet Geoffrey Hill is around to help us out.

Images

Thomas Wyatt, the Elder
A very famous drawing of Thomas Wyatt. What a beard!

Thomas Wyatt, the Younger
Thomas Wyatt's son, who was executed for his role in a rebellion. He also has quite the beard, although it's a bit shorter than his father's.

Allington Castle, birthplace of Thomas Wyatt
Not too shabby, Mr. Wyatt.

Allington Castle, Again
And here it is again, from the front.

Thomas Wyatt's Handwriting
Can you read it at all? We certainly can't. Paleography class, anyone?

Henry VIII
Check out this famous painting of Henry VIII, wearing the biggest coat in the history of coats.

Historical Documents

First Publication
Here's an awesome peek at the way the poem appeared when it was first published in Tottel's Miscellany. You'll notice it had a different title in this book: "The lover showeth how he is forsaken of such as he sometime enjoyed." It's a little clunky, but it certainly gets the point across.

Title Page
And here's the title page from Tottel's Miscellany, published in 1557. Pretty neat, if we may say so.

Books

Sir Thomas Wyatt: The Complete Poems
If "They Flee from Me" tickled your fancy, you can check out all of his poems (and boy are there a lot) in this collection.

Movies & TV

The Tudors
A show on Showtime in which Thomas Wyatt is a character (played by Jamie King). This show is not recommended viewing for the kiddies. If this is a PG-13 poem, then The Tudors is a rated-R show.