Added to this misery there is another, but of a more personal nature, and it pales in comparison to all of the suffering I’ve just told you about. Still, I can’t help telling you that lately I’ve begun to feel deserted. I am surrounded by too great a void. I never used to give it much thought, since my mind was filled with my friends and having a good time. Now I think either about unhappy things or about myself. It’s taken a while, but I’ve finally realized that Father, no matter how kind he may be, can’t take the place of my former world. (11/20/1942.3)
Family cannot replace friends.
At night in bed I see myself alone in a dungeon, without Father and Mother. Or I’m roaming the streets, or the Annex is on fire, or they come in the middle of the night to take us away and I crawl under my bed in desperation. (11/8/1943.2)
Despite all of Anne’s claims that she is independent and cares nothing for her mother, she still fears separation from her parents, showing that they actually provide her with more comfort than she realizes.
Despite all my theories and efforts, I miss – every day and every hour of the day – having a mother who understands me. That’s why with everything I do and write, I imagine the kid of mom I’d like to be with my children later on. The kind of mom who doesn’t take everything people say too seriously, but who does take me seriously. I find it difficult to describe what I mean, but the word "mom" says it all. (12/24/1943.4)
Anne feels very much a need for maternal caring, which her mother is not providing, and this realization causes Anne to want to eventually be the kind of mother that she herself longs to have.
Mother has said that she sees us more as friends than as daughters. That's all very nice, of course, except that a friend can't take the place of a mother. I need my mother to set a good example and be a person I can respect, but in most matters she's an example of what not to do. (1/5/1944.2)
Anne criticizes her mother’s style of parenting consistently in her diary; this is one constant. Though she may fluctuate in her opinions of others, and in her feelings, Anne’s mother is constantly laid bare in Anne’s criticism.