If you don't like what your family is doing, you can run away for a while, like Kat does when she goes to Colgan School. But can you ever truly be out of your own family?
[The bedroom] was beautiful but sad, Kat thought. It needed to feel a beating heart. (3.53)
Kat's taking in Hale's parents bedroom here. Her description suggests that Hale's parents aren't really involved in his life in all. As someone with a dead mother and an absent father, Kat is pretty attuned to Hale's lack of support on the family front.
It wasn't until years later that [Kat] realized it hadn't been a fun family outing—that actually they'd been casing the Louvre at the time. (4.1)
We guess the family that steals together, stays together.
The most dangerous thing about W.W. Hale the Fifth was that, when he grew up, he really wanted to be her father. (5.29)
Creepy, much? Isn't there some kind of a romantic tension between Hale and Kat? And how much do we know about this Hale guy, anyway? We wonder if he's an assassin. Or worse: Donald Trump.
"Those of us who don't abandon our families are able to learn these things." (8.37)
Gabrielle has mastered that old family manipulation tactic for getting someone to do what you want them to do: the guilt trip. It's like a tar pit dragging you in. You just can't avoid a good guilting.
Uncle Eddie seemed to be measuring [Kat] against her mother as a thief. [...] Her father seemed startled by her, as if his eyes had mistaken her for his long-lost wife. (14.26)
Another thing families do well: they judge each other a lot. But all that judging isn't mean-spirited; it's just a by-product of knowing each other so well, and for so long. How could you not judge your closest friends' and family members' decisions, when you think you knowthem, and what's good for them?
A part of [Kat] wondered whether [Taccone] had more faith in her than her own uncle, maybe even more than her own father. (19.18)
As we said earlier, families can judge each other like nobody's business. (Get off our back, mom. Jeez.) Sometimes all these judgmental remarks that go a-flying at the dinner table can be pretty discouraging. We hope you'd never turned to a crime boss for comfort, though. You better wise up, Kat.
"This is my life, Hale. Mine. My father. My job. My responsibility." (23.44)
Kat is super possessive of her family. Even though she gets frustrated at them, she still makes it her life's mission to do anything she can to protect them. That's love.
"[Nick's] not part of the family." "Yeah, well—" Kat sighed. "Neither are you." (23.57 – 23.58)
Ouch. This remark burns so bad, we almost dropped the book. Even though Hale isn't related to Kat by blood, he seems to be just as much a part of Kat's family as her Uncle Eddie. So she knows this jab will hurt.
Kat thought about Hale's mother's empty room and empty house. (24.86)
Poor Hale. Kat says he's not a part of her family, but this quote makes it seem like he's not even a part of his own family. Sigh.