Mama Queen sure does love her some rules and order. And for that matter, so does Macy—in the beginning, at least. Both women in The Truth About Forever are trying to deal with their grief by taking matters into their own hands. But the chaos of Macy's new job helps her cope with her loss instead of focusing on being the perfect child. And in the end, it takes the complete absence of any order at all (at the big gala) for Macy's mom to see what Macy's already known for a while: sometimes, rules are made to be broken.
If Macy's mom hadn't cracked down on Macy, neither of them would have ever completely worked through their grief.
Deborah's rules were the same for Macy as they were for Caroline, and that was just plain unfair.
Who is this Macy Queen girl, anyway? Well, at the start of the story, she's the girl who saw her dad die. Before long, she finds a weird half-identity as Jason's girlfriend—and that doesn't work out too well, either. How about a librarian? A caterer? Throughout The Truth About Forever, Macy learns that it doesn't matter who she's with or what she does; her identity can only come from digging deep and getting back in touch with her true self. And we, for one, are psyched about that, because we sure do like her true self.
Macy's identity was so wrapped up in her father's death that she had no chance of finding happiness until she moved past it.
Macy's dad's death is a part of Macy's identity and it always will be. She shouldn't try to fight that.
In The Truth About Forever, Macy and her mom just do not communicate. And they haven't for almost two years. They're both totally aware they aren't really done grieving, but neither one wants to let the other know that things are tough. So what does it take to get them to finally open up? Wes's probing questions a boatload of chaos, apparently. And probably—we're guessing—time to heal.
Macy and Deborah might both be bad communicators, but the blame falls on Deborah. She's the mom, and it's her responsibility to talk with her daughter.
Open lines of communication wouldn't have helped Macy and her mom, anyway. They just needed time to heal.
This isn't quite The Ugly Duckling, but Macy does undergo a massive transformation over the course of her summer. From miserable and lonely to happy and in love, the events of The Truth About Forever conspire to change her for the better.
And our leading lady isn't the only one who changes. Her mom—though she takes a different route to get there—has her own transformation. Change can be scary, yes. But what comes out the other side is usually worth the struggle.
Deborah's transformation is even more drastic than Macy's.
Macy doesn't really have a transformation. After all, she's just going back to being the girl she used to be.
Death has leaked into every part of Macy's life, so much so that she lets her dad's death define her entire being. She can't seem to deal with her grief and move forward with her life. But by the end of The Truth About Forever, mortality is defining her actions in a different way. Now it's about forever being now. Macy doesn't want to waste her precious time being miserable, so she chooses to live again. Much better.
How each character in The Truth About Forever deals with death tells us a lot about who they are as a person.
Deborah still hasn't completely gotten past her husband's death by the end of the book.
Wisdom and knowledge are two very different things, and that's made very clear in The Truth About Forever. Jason has knowledge, and lots of it. But wisdom? That can only come from experience, and that's something that Delia has plenty of. Over the course of the novel, Macy comes to realize that she values wisdom over knowledge—and with all the craziness she experiences, we'd bet she's picked up a bit of her own, too.
Macy's mom is plenty wise, but since she doesn't listen to Macy, she can't apply it.
The Truth About Forever teaches us that suffering is necessary to gain wisdom.
The Queen ladies sure are a motley crew in The Truth About Forever. Between Macy, Caroline, and Deborah, we've got a whole slew of attitudes, personalities, and coping strategies. But what's family if not complicated, right? As much tension as there is among these ladies, the Queens are proof that family can make or break you. Oh, and don't forget: the Queens aren't the only family in the novel, either. Catering is a family business, y'all.
If Deborah had been more affectionate towards Macy, her problems never would have progressed so far.
Caroline should have left Macy and her mom alone to learn to deal by themselves—it would have been less painful.
Everyone in The Truth About Forever has a different idea about what makes happiness. For Macy, it's finding your forever. For Delia, it's embracing chaos and brokenness and working with it. For Monica…Donneven? Moral of the story: everyone sees happiness differently, but you know what? That's 100% okay.
Jason might have given up some happiness to plan for his future, but hey, he's young. We should cut him some slack.
Delia might put on a good show, but she isn't really happy. Her life is too much of a mess to be truly happy.