Henry appears and comments on how the sci-fi movie he's been watching is so weird and confusing. He and Frederich set the table and talk about sports.
After dinner, Frederich asks Grace if she does know where Jonathan is. She says she would have told the cops if she did.
Frederich is surprised Jonathan has managed to stay undetected for so long with how connected technology is these days.
Dad asks Grace if she knows where J is. She says no and she definitely would have told the cops if she did. Dad says he's surprised J is managing it with how connected everything is these days.
Grace has thought about this too and says Jonathan might have already had a plan for how to disappear in place.
Grace tells her dad that she was inspired by how strong her parents' marriage was, and she tried to emulate their example because she wanted to be happy like them.
Frederich starts crying, and it's not the happy kind.
He tells her they weren't happy, especially not her mother. He tried to be, and when he couldn't be happy with Marjorie, he tried to be happy with other people.
All the gaudy jewelry was his way of apologizing to her mother, but she felt like it was a scarlet letter and never wore it.
Grace says they should have been in therapy, but Frederich says that didn't seem like an option for them.
He just wanted to leave, and he asked Marjorie for a divorce but she said no.
After Grace went to college, he asked again and she considered it, but then she had a stroke.
Grace says that knowing all of this makes her incredibly sad, and her dad agrees.
He says he wanted more kids. He loved being a father and watching her learn things.
"But you just looked and looked at something, and I used to say to your mother, ‘There's a lot going on in there. She looks at everything.' Looks at everything. Grace thought. And sees nothing" (18.317).
Frederich says he's upset to know that Grace thought he and her mother had the idea marriage, and he should have talked to her a long time ago.
Grace says she should have insisted on it since it's a teenager's job to criticize their parents.
She "must have thought she was above all that" (18.317-318). What a shock.
She asks her dad if she can have their wedding china. She wants Henry to feel connected to things that don't remind him of Jonathan.
"‘I want to have a past to give to Henry. I don't need it to be perfect, just to be real.' And it occurred to her, as she heard these things spoken aloud, that she was a tiny bit closer to being almost ready for that herself" (18.319).