When You Reach Me Friendship Quotes

How we cite our quotes: (Chapter.Paragraph)

Quote #1

She met Louisa, who didn't have a husband either, in the lobby on that first day. They were both taking garbage to the big cans out front. Louisa was holding Sal. Sal had been crying, but when he saw me, he stopped.

I know all this because I used to ask to hear the story over and over: the story of the day I met Sal. (4.26-27)

Miranda introduces one of main plot points: the story of her friendship with Sal. We know that the two were friends for a very long time, since they were very small. The question now, though, is where is that friendship going?

Quote #2

I used to think of Sal as being a part of me: Sal and Miranda, Miranda and Sal. I knew he wasn't really, but that's the way it felt. (5.9)

The way Miranda sees herself is really connected to Sal. She sees him not as a different person, but as part of her. Is this a good or a bad thing? What does the book suggest?

Quote #3

One time, when Sal had a fever and Louisa had called in sick to her job and kept him home, the daycare lady handed me my carpet square at nap time, and then, a second later, she gave me Sal's, too.

"I know how it is, baby," she said.

And then I lay on her floor not sleeping because Sal wasn't there to press his foot against mine. (5.11-13)

In this story from her nursery school days, Miranda tells us how she couldn't take a nap without Sal there to touch his foot with hers. Does Miranda still feel this way about Sal? Is it a sign of a strong friendship or a troubled one?

Quote #4

Sal played basketball more and more and talked to me less and less. I asked him four hundred times whether he was okay, or if he was mad at me, or what was wrong, and three hundred and ninety-nine times he answered, "Yes," "No," and "Nothing." Then, the last time I asked, he told me, while standing in our lobby and looking at his feet, that he didn't want to have lunch or walk home together for a while.

"Do you even want to be friends at all?" I asked him.

He glared at his feet and said no, he guessed he didn't for a while. (11.4-6)

After Sal gets punched by the boy in the army coat, he continues to be distant – or at least this is what Miranda thinks. He finally tells her he doesn't want to be friends. Why do you think that might be? Why does Sal start playing basketball?

Quote #5

I knew the way the girls all paired up, and Julia and Annemarie had been paired up for a long time. Julia I hated. Annemarie I had never thought about much. (11.9)

Miranda decides to befriend the girls in her grade. Why has she never done so before? Also, why does Miranda hate Julia?

Quote #6

That's when I noticed that her room was covered with pictures of Julia. Maybe not covered, exactly, but there were a lot of them – the two of them in pajamas, or in the park, or standing together all dressed up outside some theater. (12.10)

Like Miranda and Sal, Annemarie and Julia have been friends for a very long time. Like Miranda and Sal, they are also on the outs. How would you characterize Annemarie's friendship with Julia? What is the significance of the pictures on Annemarie's wall?

Quote #7

Now fast-forward. The earth is still making loops around the sun. There are humans all over the place, driving in cars and flying in airplanes. And then one day one human tells another human that he doesn't want to talk to school wit her anymore.

"Does it really matter?" I asked myself.

It did. (38.3-5)

In the first paragraph, Miranda zooms out on the earth and asks if, in the grand scheme of things, one tiny little friendship means anything. She decides it does. What do you think?

Quote #8

Julia watched Annemarie. And I watched Julia watching Annemarie. And what I saw were eyes that were sixty-percent-cacao chocolate, a face that was café au lait, and an expression that was so familiar it made my whole body ring like a bell. Julia's look was my look. My looking at Sal.

And suddenly I knew three things:

First, it was Julia who had left the rose for Annemarie.

Second, Julia cared about Annemarie, but Annemarie didn't see it. Because I was standing in the way.

Third, Alice Evans was about to pee in her pants. (41.3-7)

The broken friendship between Julia and Annemarie is a mirror of Sal and Miranda's. Why, though, do you think Julia leaves Annemarie the rose?

Quote #9

"So when can we go back to normal?" I asked.

"That's the thing, Mira. It wasn't normal. I didn't have any other friends! Not real friends."

Neither did I! I wanted to say. And then I realized – that was his whole point. We'd only had each other. It has been that way forever. (47.27-29)

In this chapter (47), Sal tells Miranda why he stops walking home from school with her. What reasons does he give earlier in the chapter? What does Sal mean about their friendship not being "normal"?

Quote #10

"I mean, remember the second week of school, when you got sick? I spent that whole week alone. The whole week. Alone at lunch every day, alone after school…and don't take this the wrong way, but sometimes I want to hang out with boys." (47.30)

Sal reminds Miranda of what happened to him at school when she wasn't there. Why does Sal eat lunch alone?

Quote #11

Sal and I don't wait for each other these days. Not purposely. But if we happen to be leaving school at the same time, if he isn't going to a friend's, or to basketball practice, and I'm not going to Annemarie's or Julia's – or Colin's – then Sal and I walk home together. And we are better this way, together because we want to be. He understood that before I did. (54.1)

Miranda is now friends with Sal because she wants to be – not because she has to be. What does this say about her friendship with Sal before? How is it different now?