Cyberbullying: How to Deal with it

In this video from our cyberbullying course, learn all about how to deal with cyberbullying when you are the victim.

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Transcript

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from the king of nigeria who really needs your financial

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advice So you ignore it but then you get the

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same thing texted to your cellphone Some twisted individual is

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messing with you You specifically same thing gets posted on

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your facebook wall and you even get a photo of

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yourself photo shop so it looks like you've got a

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gun in your mouth Still you let it go But

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a week later there's some story on the news about

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some kid who is getting threatening messages and he ended

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up killing himself by sticking a gun in his mouth

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It could be a coincidence but deep down you know

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it isn't nice job letting mr nutjob carry on his

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important work How's sleeping at night working out for you

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this week Well here's the good news for anyone who

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reports a cyber bully you're not a snitch in the

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mob if someone is bullying you online and you tell

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someone about it you are not a snitch When you

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were younger you got flagged for tattle in your sister's

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not going extra cookie after dinner and you tattled to

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your parents blah blah when a serious and repeatable crime

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is being committed It isn't tattle ing it's reporting your

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saving someone else Isn't there a social responsibility We have

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to protect each other on this planet Have we grown

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that large as a country that we don't have atleast

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an obligation to be responsible the one another There is

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no tattle ing on ly communication intended to help not

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harm So now take that sense of personal obligation to

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your brothers and sisters on this earth and apply it

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to cyber bullying Little trudy tompkins gets repeatedly harassed by

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the same bully for over a year death threats in

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an inbox Rumors spread online about her having a congenital

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twin removed from her neck at birth Lovely pictures posted

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on her facebook wall Okay true Just got a few

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options Well let's See what's behind door number one Do

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nothing Keep it inside Everything is awesome Sounds like a

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great plan We can already see the therapy bills Door

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number two Tell her best friend Well telling your friend

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might not do much since they're not a responsible adult

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and there might even be a backfire risk here Her

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friend told everyone in the school and well now others

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air harassing her for being a whiny baby and it's

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just tick the bully off So now the bullying escalates

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Great job friend Or alternatively that friend has the key

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to daddy's gun collection and one day decides she needs

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some vigilante target practice now to door number three Tell

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her parents Well this is a good option if trudy's

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parents are the responsible proactive type But in trudy's case

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she tells your mom does your mom even believe her

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That he's also behind door number three But trudy's dad

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drinks and has a nasty temper No telling what he

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might do Oh and a big gun collection don't want

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that How about door number four Tell a teacher boom

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that does the trick Her teacher is likely emotionally disengaged

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and will not go nuts or react irrationally So the

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teacher contacts the law enforcement people they tracked down her

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Bully and he's out of her life or at least

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the consequences get massively severe if he now re enters

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All right what about door number five Five little works

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go directly to the cops They're not going to ignore

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the bowling stuff Not anymore They've seen it go south

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too many times knowing where to go to report Bowling

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is just a cz important is reporting it at all

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Tell someone who has a clue but if trudy goes

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with door number one and doesn't tell anyone on the

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bull you'll simply swooped down on other victims Make dozens

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of other people miserable make it lead to a suicide

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or two house keeping a low profile working out for

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you now trudy Well if you want something like that

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down your head go ahead and keep it a secret

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Stay all safe and protected in your little private cocoon

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but unless you have really crappy parents and teachers they'll

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have your back The bully will be caught and punished

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and if they get punished severely or often enough or

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both well they might just get the hint Start leaving

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people the heck alone and our guess is that society

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Will soon have zero tolerance laws for this stuff you

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get caught bullying in his permanent record Good luck getting

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that job you always wanted All right So when should

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you report a cyber bully Well okay there's A line

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drawn here If you're chatting on a facebook thread and

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you say my dad told me that santa was really

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and then melanie from your brit lit class responds by

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saying your dad is an idiot that is not cyber

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bullying In fact you may want to listen to this

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kid Sounds like she knows what's up But if melanie

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tracked you down to the website you were on followed

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you from one room to another and told you and

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everyone else that your dad was an idiot kind of

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out of the blue Maybe said he was a klansman

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who's looking for crosses to burn and then gives your

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home address Well then yeah she's a cyber bully who

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needs to be stopped And you're the only one who

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can stop her Which sort of makes you a little

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bit of superman You have to ask yourself what's the

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worst That can happen if i report a bully You

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tell your dad hey dad This jerk from school's been

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hounding me on social media sites and keep saying offensive

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things to me and your dad says so What Grow

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a pair Well yeah not the reaction you were open

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for Well you're right back where you started Now what's

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the best that can happen when you report a bully

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You you tell your dad and he takes action alerts

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law enforcement or teachers or somebody important And they tracked

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down the bully bully gets expelled maybe even some time

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in juvie pulling parts on his record And if he's

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caught a second time it's jail hard time to get

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some help Maybe some positive reinforcement Maybe he sees the

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error of his ways Maybe he stopped fooling people Yeah

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well somewhere in southern indiana there's Some poor frail hearted

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girl Who's still alive because of you You may never

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know how you save that life but it could really

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happen Okay have away the upside and downside Enough here

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Easy call right Yeah So now that you've decided not

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to sit on your hands well what steps do you

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take when dealing with a bully Well first thing do

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Not respond Cut off all communication finito Block him If

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you can don't delete what they sent you Keep that

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stuff is evidence Next whatever site you're on when you

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got bullied Well they probably have a place for you

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to click here or here and report him Let him

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know you're being bullied bad for their rep if they

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let it continue so they'll probably boot that player off

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the site Finally tell a trusted adult your parents a

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teacher If you've been getting threatened with physical violence bring

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in the law enforcement Those guys were just busy directing

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traffic and eating doughnuts anyway right guys we're just kidding

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We love you What if you tell someone you've been

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cyber bullied and they do call you a snitch If

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you report a bully what are the chances they'll come

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after you for reporting them How do you know if

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someone is a good person to tell what's an example

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of something that's not quite cyberbullying but is close to

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cyber bullying Is it a good idea to report a

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belief directly to law enforcement even if the bully hasn't

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threatened you physically How's Sleeping at night working out for 00:07:37.133 --> [endTime] you this week