ELA 4: How Words Can Help

Sticks and stones, right? Well...only sometimes. It's a good idea to make sure your words aren't going to hurt others. Let's look at some ways to do that.

4th GradeLanguage Arts
Elementary and Middle School4th Grade
LanguageEnglish Language

Transcript

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Well, we’re here to let you know that a disagreement doesn't mean you have to end

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your friendship and move to a different city. Follow these tips, and you should be able [Girl packing a suitcase]

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to move on… without actually having to move. The first thing to keep in mind is that people

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often disagree when they don't share the same opinion. And that's completely fine.

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It might not feel great, but it’s okay.

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Opinions aren't hard facts that everyone needs to agree on––they're shaped by people's [Coop discussing opinions]

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perspectives and their experiences, which means that everybody can have a different

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one.

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With that in mind, it's always a good idea to hear people out on why they hold certain

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opinions. What makes them feel the way that they do? What experiences have they had that [Man and woman in a coffee store]

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support that opinion? You'll only find out if you listen.

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And that's not just true about other people's opinions, but your own as well. If someone

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doesn't agree with you, you should be just as willing to talk them through why you hold [Girl getting a haircut]

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that opinion. Even things that are incredibly clear to you might be news to someone else.

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And when stating your opinions, it's a good idea to make clear that they are, in fact, [Man sits on a chair by a PC]

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opinions. You can do this with phrases like: "In my opinion…" or "In my experience…"

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or even "I think that…"

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So instead of saying, “Harry OBVIOUSLY should have ended up with Hermione,” just throw

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an “I think” in there, and boom: less people will get mad at you.

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Well…maybe just stay away from Harry Potter fans in general. They're a pretty loyal bunch. [Person in wizard robes makes man levitate]

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That brings us to a very important thing you can do to help navigate your way through a

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disagreement: be nice.

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Yup. It's that simple.

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Disagreements are no excuse to be disagreeable. Sure, it’s easy to get mad and call somebody [Tomato hits man in the face]

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a “poop-face,” but… maybe try not to.

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Even if it's kind of funny, it’s not very nice and it’s certainly not winning you

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any persuasion points.

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Because guess what: it’s a lot easier to convince somebody you’re right when they

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like you. And if you follow all these steps and still [Coop teaching how to handle disagreements]

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don’t reach an agreement, that’s totally fine.

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It’s actually a good thing to learn how to do in life. Agree to disagree, get some

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ice cream together, and move on.

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And one last pro-tip: rocky road is a great flavor for moving past arguments. [Boys ice cream falls on the floor]

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But of course, that's just our opinion.