PBIS: Attitude/Positivity: Constructive Criticism

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things your parents your teachers your boss everybody's a critic

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even your dogs Where does he get the gulf Okay

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so it's not fun to be told you're wrong or

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that something you've done and so great But most the

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time people aren't criticizing you just hurt your feelings unless

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they're in a seriously bad mood Well sometimes your friends

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your family members teacher boss they're trying to help you

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by saying something isn't the very best it could be

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even if what they're saying makes your ears one toe

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you know close up shop in college today but often

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people are just trying to provide solutions the problems commonly

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referred to as constructive criticism catchy title there constructive criticism

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is way different and just ragged on someone or complaining

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about them which can be fun too but not nearly

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as productive Just go watch reality tv for details there

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Are a few things you can do when someone offers

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you constructive criticism Well for one you can take the

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advice and make the change maybe not a bad idea

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or you can simply say thank you You don't actually

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have to make the change if you don't think it'll

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help others khun suggest you cut a paragraph from an

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essay but only you get to the lord high executioner

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and actually swing the ax If you so choose How

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about a thank you would be at least nice and

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nobody likes it when they're well meaning advice has taken

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the wrong way and twisted into something hurtful You don't

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want to be sarcastic or mean or nasty to someone

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who's just trying to help you idea Well may we

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suggest you invest in a punching bag Sounds like you

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have some psychological stuff to work out but yeah arguing

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with people who you're tryingto help is not gonna win

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many friends for you or make you very popular If

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you're into that sort of thing it only makes you

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look small and insecure like you fight back and nobody

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wants to hang out with a know it all who

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Can't handle making a mistake and we're looking at you

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her miami everyone makes mistakes Yeah even us even shmoop

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er's and do that make tons of mistakes and no

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one can know everything back Even einstein needed an editor

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for his books He probably stunk it doing his own

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taxes So just remember it's not the mistakes you make

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along the way It's your ability to learn from them

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improve and move on And if somebody offers you something

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well intentioned advice that maybe isn't so hot Yeah mom

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don't don't don't do that be gracious about it and

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thank the person for karin about yet maybe even give

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them a hug if they're a touchy feely kind Yeah 00:02:38.87 --> [endTime] okay well maybe just a thank you