PBIS: Commitment and Confidence

Sometimes, friends ask you to be in their wedding party. And sometimes, they ask you to plan the entire wedding. There are easier ways to deal with this, rather than abandoning all of your friends and living in a cave for the rest of your life. Hit play on this video, and find out how to survive the wedding party woes.

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She’s also asked her to bake the cake, assemble the flower displays, put together the table

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centerpieces, arrange the musical compositions and otherwise arrange every single aspect

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of the ceremony and reception. [Addison and Madison sat on a sofa]

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Wow. What an honor. Thanks a lot, Addison. As privileged as Madison feels to have so

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much responsibility bestowed upon her, she’s…a tad overwhelmed. Understandably so. [Madison looks at her phone while driving]

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But… because she loves the stuffin’s out of her BFF,

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she’s promised to come through on all counts.

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Maybe a mistake. But…too late now. The wedding is just a month out, so…they’ve passed

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the point of no return. The more time Madison spends on the phone [Wedding date scribbled in a diary]

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with vendors, or brushing up on her baking skills, or trying to take a crash course on music theory…

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…the more stressed, and the more desperate, she becomes.

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Not to mention the fact that she’s got this maid of honor speech to write.

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She’s scared to death of talking in front of people…plus…if this thing isn’t perfect, [Madison giving a presentation and runs away]

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she’s going to be totally disappointed.

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Hm. Doesn’t sound at all like she’s setting herself up for failure.

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Right? Such reasonable expectations…

01:17

Well, Madison has a tiny bit of a breakdown.

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Her friends try to console her and give her a pep talk, but… they can’t seem to do [Madisons friends giving her a pep talk]

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anything about that crazed look in her eye…

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At this point, she’s threatening to just give up completely,

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and hand the reins back to Addison. [Madison telling Addison that she quits and Addison brandishes a sword]

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Which…might very well issue in a brand new “Dark Age”…

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Finally though, Madison’s friend Mackenzie is able to break through.

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Rather than telling Madison all the generic stuff, like “Oh, it’ll all come together [Mackenzie talking to Madison on a sofa]

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in the end” or “Just do your best” or “No one will notice if it’s a total disaster”…

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…Mackenzie gets right to the heart of the matter.

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She reminds Madison that she was asked to bake this cake because… she bakes killer cakes.

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And she was put on flower displays and centerpieces because her eye for tasteful and beautiful

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decorations and innate crafting ability have been frequently lauded… [Madisons friend laud her crafting ability]

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and of course they’re going to look amazing.

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Even the stuff she was asked to do that are a bit out of her comfort zone…

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Addison only asked her to do those things because she knows

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what an uncompromising perfectionist Madison

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is…which is why she was able to place so much trust in her. [Madison trying to write a speech]

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As for the speech…Madison may have a touch of the “stage fright”…but everything

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she ever wrote was absolute poetry, and there wasn’t a doubt in her mind that there wouldn’t’

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be a dry eye in the house…er, banquet hall…when she was finished. It was all coming from the heart. [Friends crying at Madison's speech]

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Yeah, there was some degree of buttering her friend up in there…but it was all basically true.

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And with her confidence suddenly boosted incredibly, Madison resolved anew to honor her commitment [Madison reading a wedding cake baking book]

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to the best of her ability…which was at a pretty high level.

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Once she simply told herself she could do it, and do it all well, it’s amazing how

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much easier the tasks became. [Madison learning to play piano]

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With just a bit more self-assurance, Madison got all her baking and crafting and composing

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done under the wire, and in top form.

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And her speech? She killed it, of course. [Addison and her husband at the altar]

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She even had the ring bearer and flower girl asking for her autograph afterward.

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Nothing wrong with having a couple of wedding groupies… [Children asking Madison for her autograph]