Quote 1
"I see what you are feeling," replied Charlotte. "You must be surprised, very much surprised—so lately as Mr. Collins was wishing to marry you. But when you have had time to think it over, I hope you will be satisfied with what I have done. I am not romantic, you know; I never was. I ask only a comfortable home; and considering Mr. Collins' character, connection, and situation in life, I am convinced that my chance of happiness with him is as fair as most people can boast on entering the marriage state." (22.17)
As Socrates once said, the secret to happiness is having low expectations. (Or something like that.) Charlotte doesn't expect fireworks and earthquakes from her marriage; all she wants is a house to keep and, presumably, kids to raise. (Ugh, a houseful of tiny Collinses.)
Quote 2
"His pride," said Miss Lucas, "does not offend me so much as pride often does, because there is an excuse for it. One cannot wonder that so very fine a young man, with family, fortune, everything in his favour, should think highly of himself. If I may so express it, he has a right to be proud." (5.18)
Miss Lucas thinks that if you have everything going for you, you have a right to be proud. Do you agree with Charlotte?
Quote 3
"Though Bingley and Jane meet tolerably often, it is never for many hours together; and, as they always see each other in large mixed parties, it is impossible that every moment should be employed in conversing together. Jane should therefore make the most of every half-hour in which she can command his attention. When she is secure of him, there will be more leisure for falling in love as much as she chooses." (6.5-6)
For Charlotte, there's no "First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes Mr. Bingley pushing the baby carriage." Instead, it's "First comes marriage, then comes the baby carriage"—and love is just a bonus.