Why We Broke Up Friendship Quotes

How we cite our quotes: (Chapter.Paragraph)

Quote #1

"Watching you go, Al watching you go, watching Al watching you go, and realizing I had to say you were a jerk to do that and not being able to make those words work." (11.68)

Sometimes when Min is forced to see her relationship with Ed through Al's eyes, she doesn't like what she sees.

Quote #2

We'd agreed, with more debate and diplomacy than that Nigel Krath's seven-hour miniseries on Cardinal Richelieu, that we'd have an early dinner or a post-coffee, post-practice snack or whatever you call it when it's sunset and you're really supposed to be home but instead you're having waffle-iron grilled cheeses and scalding watery tomato soup at a place of neutral territory. (12.2)

Ed and Min are from two different worlds, at least in terms of social circles. Their friend groups have zero overlap, making it difficult for Min to integrate Ed into her "real" life.

Quote #3

Or was I ashamed of my friends? Was that it, Min? I said you had practice and they said that was no excuse and I said of course it was and Lauren said maybe if we didn't invite you, like with Al's party, maybe then you'd show up. (12.2)

Is Min really ashamed of her friends? Or is she ashamed of Ed? Maybe she's ashamed both, or maybe she's ashamed of neither. What do you think?

Quote #4

"I'm free," Al admitted. "I have nothing, I'm the usual loser."

"You just wanted to make me suffer."

"What's the use of friendship?" he said, our version of What are friends for? (22.25 – 22.27)

What are friends for, anyway? What do you think is the most important thing Al does for Min over the course of the book?

Quote #5

I had a sudden question in my head there wasn't room for, a question about you, Ed. Al had just said it, You can tell me anything, and was waiting for me to say something…. But I couldn't ask it. […] My question didn't belong in Al's loyal kitchen with my friend wiping his hand on the towel tucked into his belt like always. (22.50)

Min's question, of course, is about sex—that is, whether or not she should have it with Ed. It isn't clear why Min thinks that question doesn't belong in Al's loyal kitchen. Could it be that, deep down inside, she suspects he has feelings for her?

Quote #6

This is how we were, Ed, me and Al. You never got it and I never really told you how it was, old married couple, Al's mom called it once and just laughed when Al said, "Well, Mamma, you should know." (22.65)

Ed and Min really are like an old married couple, finishing each other's sentences and wiping mustard off each other's faces. Do you think that means they have a shot at romance? Or does it reinforce the idea they're just platonic?

Quote #7

Ed, I'll tell you what's the use of friendship, because we never were friends. The use is racing off into the night, is what the use is. Rolling down the windows, the rained-out air in our faces all the way to the shop. The use is the good talking, and the not talking as we got there. (22.162)

Min's observation about the talking and the not talking foreshadows her falling out with Al, during which they give one another the silent treatment.

Quote #8

I stood alone with it in my hands in Green Mountain Hardware, quiet and lonely and trying to conjure Al beside me so I could ask him things only he could know. (27.1)

When Min and Al are fighting, he remains her constant companion in her thoughts. Aw…

Quote #9

"And that's not even counting the Al drama. Min, I really wish you guys would, you know, kiss and make up."

"He knows where to find me," I said.

"Yeah," she said sharply. "Basketball practice."

"He's my boyfriend," I said. "That's what he does."

"That and take money from my purse." (31.8-31.12)

Al's not the only one who isn't fond of Ed. Here, Lauren needles Min about the relationship. Yes, she's harsh, but there's also truth in her words.

Quote #10

"I do, Min, but Annette, you know, she lives right nearby. And you know we've stayed friends. I mean, you have guy friends, you know how it is, and I've never given you a hard time about it" (40.65)

Ed and Annette, his ex, stayed friends after they broke up. Turns out, they also stayed lovers. Whoops.