Here We Are Theme of Family

Family isn't a huge theme in "Here We Are"—except insofar as a newlywed couple is a family of two. But we're thinking specifically of the part where the wife accuses the husband of not liking her family.

It's not necessarily a super-serious accusation: there might be some truth to it (or there might not be), but the real energy of the story is centered on the couple's anxieties about finally having sex. It seems like the wife's accusation is a way of deflecting her worries from that major concern and projecting them onto something else.

Questions About Family

  1. Does the husband like the wife's family? Is he convincing or not?
  2. Why does the wife act like the family thing is a major concern if she's really thinking of something else? Is she just deflecting? Or is this another genuine worry?
  3. How important is liking someone else's family, after you marry them? Is it super-essential? Or can you work around it?

Chew on This

Try on an opinion or two, start a debate, or play the devil’s advocate.

"Here We Are" suggests that when you marry someone, you marry that person's whole family, in a way.

"Here We Are" just suggests that you really just marry the person you marry. You can take or leave the family, depending.