Never Let Me Go Theme of Friendship

The friendships in Never Let Me Go sure are complicated, but they're also very realistic. In the novel, just like in real life, friends fight, make up, have misunderstandings, support one another, and accidentally or purposefully hurt each other's feelings. When she's younger, all these little tiffs get to Kathy. But as an adult Kathy looks past all that stuff. Her flashbacks about Ruth and Tommy show us the ups and downs of friendship, but they also remind us just how enduring friendships can be.

Questions About Friendship

  1. What matters more to Kathy, her actual friends or her memories of friends? What about imaginary friends like Judy Bridgewater? 
  2. Are there ways Kathy is too dependent on her friends? Or too independent from her friends? What does the book suggest is the right balance? How can you tell?
  3. Is Kathy always a good friend? What about Tommy? Or Ruth? 
  4. How does Hailsham bring friends together? On the flipside, how does it tear friends apart?