Quote 1
I went to Support Group for the same reason that I'd once allowed nurses with a mere eighteen months of graduate education to poison me with exotically named chemicals: I wanted to make my parents happy. (1.28)
Hazel may be a grumpy teen, but despite her griping and groaning, she still goes to Support Group. Why? Because her parents tell her to. She's always looking out for them, even when it makes the little time she has left on earth a little less awesome for her.
Quote 2
It occurred to me that the reason my parents had no money was me. I'd sapped the family savings with Phalanxifor copays, and Mom couldn't work because she had taken on the full-time profession of Hovering Over Me. (5.135)
Uh oh. Hazel's getting the guilt-bug pretty young. Does that mean that everything she does for her parents—going to Support Group, for example—is out of guilt?
Quote 3
I hated hurting him. Most of the time, I could forget about it, but the inexorable truth is this: They might be glad to have me around, but I was the alpha and the omega of my parents' suffering. (8.15)
If you ask us, Hazel's also the alpha and omega of teenage angst. Why does she feel like she's just a source of suffering to her parents? Is it because of the way her parents act around her or does it come from inside Hazel?
Quote 4
Mom sobbed something into Dad's chest that I wish I hadn't heard, and that I hope she never finds out that I did hear. She said, "I won't be a mom anymore." (8.16)
Wow. No wonder Hazel keeps this statement with her. It's a lot of pressure to be responsible for your mom's loss of identity.
Quote 5
I hadn't gotten to know his half sisters, really, but they both hugged me anyway. Julie was sitting on the edge of the bed, talking to a secret Gus in precisely the same voice you would use to tell an infant he was adorable (19.19)
Grief really does bring families together. Do you think Hazel will become close with Augustus's family after his death?
Quote 6
I just kind of crawled across the couch into her lap and my dad came over and held my legs really tight and I wrapped my arms all the way around my mom's middle and they held on to me for hours while the tide rolled in. (21.30)
Maybe parents do understand. And no matter how annoying they can be, they really are the ultimate comfort.
Quote 7
I hadn't been in proper school in three years. My parents were my two best friends. My third best friend was an author who did not know I existed. (1.62)
What's Hazel's tone in this passage? Is she bummed that her best friends are adults, who are either related to her or whom she's never met? Or is she okay with it?
Quote 8
But three years removed from proper full-time schoolic exposure to my peers, I felt a certain unbridgeable distance between us. I think my school friends wanted to help me through my cancer, but they eventually found out that they couldn't. (3.61)
Are Hazel's old friends to blame for this? Should healthy young people be expected to understand what their cancer friends are going through?
Quote 9
"Well, to be fair," I said. "I mean, she probably can't handle it. Neither can you, but she doesn't have to handle it. And you do." (4.91)
Isaac suffers something a typical teenage woe—first heartbreak—because of his disease. Talk about a double whammy. Does Monica have the right to pull that?
Quote 10
That was the worst part about having cancer, sometimes: The physical evidence of disease separates you from other people. (10.58)
Can't a girl get on a plane without everyone gawking at her like a zoo animal? Be honest. Have you ever looked for an extra second at someone who's a little different physically? Why? What is it in us that makes us stare? How do you think that makes the recipient of the stares feel?
Quote 11
But this was the truth, a pitiful boy who desperately wanted not to be pitiful, screaming and crying (18.28)
There's nothing lonelier or more isolating than being at a gas station in the middle of the night with a malfunctioning G-tube. Augustus feels disgusting and embarrassed and there's nothing Hazel can do to comfort him when he's this helpless.
Quote 12
It felt like losing your co-rememberer meant losing the memory itself, as if the things we'd done were less real and important than they had been hours before. (21.6)
This is a kind of loneliness anyone who's lost a loved one can understand.
Quote 13
The dead air on the line was so eerie. I just wanted to go back to that secret post-terrestrial third space with him that we visited when we talked on the phone. (21.10)
Hazel can never go back to that third space she shared with Augustus. It's officially gone. How do you think Hazel will get along after he's gone.
Quote 14
I almost felt like he was there in my room with me, but in a way it was better, like I was not in my room and he was not in his, but instead we were together in some invisible and tenuous third space (5.67)
Hazel and Augustus are so in L-O-V-E that they're not even sitting in a tree. They're sitting in a magical third space. Since when is Hazel so sappy?
Quote 15
As he read, I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once. (8.75)
Even before she admits it to him, Hazel is totally and completely smitten by Augustus Waters. She can't control it, just like other people can't control loving her. Cancer is totally out of the picture at this moment—and it's pretty awesome.
Quote 16
[…] and then thinking that Anne Frank, after all, kissed someone in the Anne Frank House, and that she would probably like nothing more than for her home to have become a place where the young and irreparably broken sink into live. (12.185)
There's nothing more romantic than sharing your first kiss in a place where a bunch of people were hiding from Nazis. The hardships faced by Anne and Hazel are apples and oranges, but both girls are able to find moments of joy in an otherwise desperate existence.
Quote 17
[…] and only now that I loved a grenade did I understand the foolishness of trying to save others from my own impending fragmentation: I couldn't unlove Augustus Waters. And I didn't want to. (13.34)
Maybe Hazel is a grenade. But finally she realizes that it doesn't matter. When you love someone, they could be any sort of weapon and you'd still love them.
Quote 18
"My name is Hazel. Augustus Waters was the great star-crossed love of my life." (20.58)
There's nothing more tragic than a story about star-crossed lovers. Just look at Romeo and Juliet, for Pete's sake.
Quote 19
I'd learned this from my aforementioned third best friend, Peter Van Houten, the reclusive author of An Imperial Affliction, the book that was as close a thing as I had to a Bible. (1.65)
Can we consider An Imperial Affection to be a kind of religion for Hazel? Does she think of it like that?
Quote 20
Maybe some people need to believe in a proper and omnipotent God to pray, but I don't. (12.174)
Even though Hazel's not at all religious (in the organized religion sense), she still feels the need to pray when things are dire. She loves Augustus and is willing to go against her intellectual beliefs to try for a miracle.