How we cite our quotes: (Chapter.Paragraph)
Quote #1
It's strange to see my Dauntless friends in Abnegation colors, as if they've been with me my entire life. Sometimes it feels that way anyway. (8.28)
Tobias realizes that true friendship isn't dependent on how long you've known a person. Time is relative. You can feel like you've had a connection forever with a person you just met.
Quote #2
I'm wondering […] if we even really need these words, "Dauntless," "Erudite," Divergent," "Allegiant," or if we can just be friends or lovers or siblings, defined instead by the choices we make and the love and loyalty that binds us. (15.94)
Tris comes up with this idea as she realizes that she and Cara are actually friends, despite the fact that Cara is (was) "Erudite." With that word erased, Tris can finally see Cara for the person she truly is, and appreciate her for her strengths.