I Never Promised You a Rose Garden Chapter 12 Summary

  • In a therapy session, Dr. Fried asks Deborah if she can see how she has created Yr herself.
  • Deborah screams out that Yr is real.
  • Dr. Fried then asks Deborah to go back to when she wasn't pretending to be normal on the outside, to go back to when she was little and absorbing the world around her.
  • Deborah remembers her grandfather and how overbearing he was to everyone in their family. He made sexist comments but still expected Deborah to be smart and come in first, even though she'd eventually end up being a "cow" and "wasted woman". He seemed angry at the way he was treated for being a Jewish immigrant, but he'd tell Deborah she was just like him and would "show them all". No pressure. Talk about mixed signals.
  • Dr. Fried calls all this history the set-up and "soil" from which Yr grew.
  • Dr. Fried then figures out that Deborah's initial upset occurred when she was very little and her mother went away to recover after enduring the stillbirth of twins. Deborah felt abandoned during this time and remembers the bars of her crib and everything being gray.
  • Deborah also remembers a huge white being and an empty feeling.
  • Deborah now realizes that the white being was the nurse who came to their house to help out. She also realizes that the empty feeling of abandonment had gone wild in her imagination. The bars of the crib eventually morphed into the isolation of Yr's Pit.
  • Everything has grown bigger and more menacing with each passing year, and Deborah finally realizes that Yr is made up of the ghosts of past hurts that she has given power over time.
  • Dr. Fried reaches out to touch Deborah's arm to comfort her, and at her touch Deborah flinches because it actually feels to Deborah like a burn. She even sees smoke, but she still says to the doctor that she'll continue working hard to get better as long as she can.