I Never Promised You a Rose Garden Identity Quotes

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Quote #1

His neighbors had every manner he admired, and in turn they despised his religion, his accent, and his style. They made the lives of his wife and children miserable, but he cursed them all [...]. (5.13)

This is how Pop deals with the prejudice. He gets rich and wants to be accepted by the members of the wealthy community where he lives, but they reject him. His own ugly feelings likely contribute to the sense of self-loathing we see in both Esther and Deb. Pop has sort of taught them to despise themselves.

Quote #2

For a glimpse of their true value they had only to look into their neighbors' eyes or to hear Pop's remarks if the soup was cold [...]. (5.15)

Deborah grows up in the shadow of Pop's self-hatred, as well as in the shadow of prejudice from her community. The negativity she feels about herself is only reinforced by the way she and her family are looked down on just for being Jewish.

Quote #3

The second change came when she was nine and it came with her shaming. It was the first day of her third year at the camp, and still fighting against what she felt was the injustice of having been born as herself, she reported the two girls who had ridiculed her and refused to let her walk with them […]. "Who actually said those words to you: 'We don't walk with stinking Jews—' Was it Claire or Joan?" (8.12)

Deborah tried to report an incident of prejudice to her camp counselor, but she got the girl's name wrong when reporting it, so her claim is dismissed. From that point on, the girls at camp, as well as the counselors, believe that Deborah is a liar, and they ridicule her. The incident reinforces Deborah's ideas about her own worthlessness.