The Usual Rules Guilt and Blame Quotes

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Quote #1

He sounded so sad, Wendy wanted to comfort him, but she knew her mother wouldn't like that. She could see the characters in Parent Trap rewinding to the beginning of the movie, where they hated each other, though in this case it seemed like it was only her mother who hated her father, not the other way around, and Wendy didn't understand how her mother could be so mean all of a sudden to someone who kept trying to be nice. (2.51)

When Garrett comes to see Janet and Wendy after being away for over a year, Wendy is quick to forgive her father—after all, she's missed him. But Janet isn't going to let him off so easy, especially when he hasn't helped raise his daughter at all in the past year.

Quote #2

I guess you wish now you hadn't said all that stuff about your mom, Amelia said.

Wendy couldn't speak.

I'll never tell anyone, Amelia said. Just because you were mad at her didn't mean you wanted a building to fall on top of her. Sometimes people say things. You should hear what I say about my mom. (3.245-247)

It's horrible enough that Wendy has to live with the fact that her mother died in the 9/11 attacks, but now she has to obsessively think about all the awful things she said about her, too.

Quote #3

I'm sorry, Janet, he said. It didn't mean anything. I didn't really care about her. It was just this thing that happened. You're the one I love. God, what was I doing?

You were screwing up our life, that's what. (4.91-92)

When Janet and Wendy surprise Garrett only to find him in bed with another woman, it's clear things aren't going to end well for their little family. It's his fault that this marriage is ending and that Janet has to raise Wendy on her own now.