How we cite our quotes: (Chapter.Paragraph)
Quote #1
He'd been raised to care for loved ones, personally, and to put someone in a home was unacceptable. What his son, Marty, never fully understood was that deep down there was an Ethel-shaped hole in Henry's life, and without her, all he felt was the draft of loneliness, cold and sharp, the years slipping away like blood from a wound that never heals. (1.4)
Marty thinks Henry doesn't want to put Ethel in hospice in order to save money, but Henry is actually sticking to what he believes in—which is that someone shouldn't die in a strange place. They should die at home, cared for by the people who love them.
Quote #2
But his sweet Ethel was gone now, and with it his responsibility to her.
Henry thanked Ms. Pettison and wrote a single name on the sheet: "Okabe." (13.32-33)
All this time, Henry has been faithful to Ethel and pushed the memory of Keiko far out of his mind. But now that his wife is dead, he can start looking for his first love again without having to feel guilty or disloyal.
Quote #3
Marty struggled for the words. "And you know, you married Mom and did the whole traditional wedding thing. And you sent me to Chinese school, like your own old man did—and you always talk about me finding a nice Chinese girl to settle with, like Mom." (18.38)
Because Henry ended up doing exactly what his parents wanted, Marty assumes that his father shares their same principles and traditions. It's a shock for him to realize that his father is actually a lot more progressive and open-minded than he believes.